Author Archives: Ashley Simpo

6 Do’s And Don’ts for The First Date

6 Do’s And Don’ts for The First Date

  According to the recent surveys, 27% of adults are using online dating as their main source of romantic socializing. Which means there are a lot of people out there who might be going on an awkward first date. Without the setting of a bar or a networking event to set the tone between you, a first date after an online encounter can feel a bit like jumping into the deep end without any lead up. Here are a few tips to help you get through that first date after it goes down in the DMs.   Do Be On Time It’s more than just common courtesy to arrive on time, if not a few minutes early. It’s also a really quick way to set the right tone. Someone took time out of their day to get ready and spend time with you – the very least you can do…Continue Reading

5 Relationship Traditions That Should Totally Be Optional

5 Relationship Traditions That Should Totally Be Optional

Despite what we may imagine, all the relationship goals in the world can’t save us from a situation that does not fit who we are. What’s most important in relationships is that we’re staying true to ourselves and along the way – making our own traditions. Here are a few relationship standards that you should feel free to opt out of. Waiting For Him To Make The First Move Your eyes meet across a crowded room and a connection is made. Now what? How about instead of waiting for him to make his way over, you meet him halfway and buy him a drink? Ladies shouldn’t be afraid to go after what they want. Long gone are the expectations of the docile woman awaiting a man’s precious graces. Take charge, there will be plenty of time later to let him take the wheel. Changing Your Last Name I recently attended a…Continue Reading

Real Men Plan Weddings

Real Men Plan Weddings

When it comes to love I’ve seen a lot and have heard even more. That is until this past weekend when I attended my friend’s wedding in the ‘Nasty Nati’.   It was a beautiful ceremony made even more beautiful by the fact that the groom planned the entire wedding and reception festivities. Between the joy and sheer elation that my girl had found someone to share her life with I couldn’t help but be impressed by the man responsible for the experience. Now, my future husband can rest assured that simply showing up to my own wedding does not appeal to me. But if you are the kind of woman who enjoys releasing the wheel a bit – just know taking this route could lead to extreme relaxation for the bride. All night, we would ask my dear freshly married friend about the details of her own wedding and…Continue Reading

2017 Is the Year Of Black Men Praising Black Women

  Harlem-based rap duo, Mankind lets the world know they love and appreciate black women in their latest project titled ‘Chocolate Eclair’. Featuring images of the most iconic black women in history, the two-and-a-half minute video reminds us of the powerful legacy from which we all come. This is in line with recent events after Kofi Siriboe made a very public proclamation of love for black women (namely his mother) and didn’t let an angry Twitter troll stop him in the process. Clapping back to his antagonist by saying: love & respect to all the good mums. i’m honoring my mom, my sisters and their bold, black skin. they deserve my specificity. For all the black men in the world, be they in the limelight or their very own living rooms – thank you for having a sister’s back.Continue Reading

#CUFFING SEASON: Netflix & Chill Guide

#CUFFING SEASON: Netflix & Chill Guide

Let’s face it, the weather outside isn’t all that frightful. Thanks to global warming it was a not-so-bad fifty-three degrees in New York last week. The sun crept out, people’s attire lightened up and it felt really good to be outside. Despite the occasional interruptions to Winter, we are still, in fact knee-deep into prime Cuffing Season. Maybe it’s the post-holiday lull, but right now all I want to do with boo is lay up and watch movies and order Seamless. If this is on your list of things to do this week, here are a few “couple-friendly” flicks to watch.   The Upbeat Cult Classic The Wiz, starring Michael Jackson, Diana Ross and Richard Pryor will get you both to ‘ease on down the road to a happy place. This throwback classic is super upbeat and reminds us all of a happier time when MJ was still alive and…Continue Reading

You Are Not Complete and Here’s Why

You Are Not Complete and Here’s Why

  “You complete me”, used to be a popular admission until one day it wasn’t. In an effort to plant the independent flag, men and women today have a visceral reaction to the notion that anyone would complete them. I understand because that’s exactly how I felt when a spiritual leader looked me square in the eye a few years ago and asked… “Where is your husband?” I responded, without even thinking, that I didn’t have one “yet”. To which he said quite assuredly that I was not complete. Well, I almost lost it in the House of the Lord. I walk out noticeably miffed, scoffing at the idea but then it settled in a bit and I began to understand the truth behind it. Most Powerhouse women hate the idea that they cannot be everything all on their own. But get this – you may be whole but that does not mean you are complete.…Continue Reading

Would You Date Your Friend’s Ex?

Would You Date Your Friend’s Ex?

“Sure, you can date my ex,” says no friend ever. Until recently. For as long as I could remember the rules and regulations for friendships of any gender banned the practice of dating someone’s ex. But have you ever wondered why? Why isn’t it okay for us to find love in our friend’s former lover? This was one of the many topics that had us on the edge of our seats at the last Dessert & Discussion in Twin Cities earlier this month.   Now I’m not saying you should go scouting out the past lovers of your friends or lay in wait hoping for the demise of their relationship so you can capitalize on lost lovers. What I am saying is, what if your soul-mate is your friend’s ex? Or what if your ex is the lover that is destined to make your friend’s love life complete. Why would…Continue Reading

5 Relationship Habits I Left In 2016

5 Relationship Habits I Left In 2016

  Charles Dickens spoke no truer words when he said it was the best of times and the worst of times…that was 2016 in a nutshell. The ups, the downs, the losses and overwhelming heaviness of the entire year. It was easy to feel hopeless, especially when it came to dating. Yet I’m reminded that even the bad days have something good to teach us.  As we embrace the new year freshly among us, it’s a good time to reflect on what we no longer have use for. Habits, mindsets, things we say to others – what didn’t serve us in 2016 has no business in 2017. Fear of Being Hurt Fear is an illusion and yet its made real by the energy we put into it.  If you are human somewhere along the way someone said something or did something that hurt you.  Here is the good news if you…Continue Reading

New Year, New Love

New Year, New Love

  So…. Serena Williams just got engaged! If you’re like so many Powerhouse Women, this announcement gave you hope.  Hope that so often is clouded by news reports, expert opinions and random Facebook memes that suggest we somehow don’t need love. That if you are a go-getter, you simply don’t deserve love and should cozy up to our careers instead. These baseless claims blame everything from a woman’s ambition and her confidence in her ability to make her mark on the world. Her absolute refusal to settle for love and relationships that are lacking what it takes to succeed. Enter Serena. A woman who is known for being a beast in her field. She is the definition of unstoppable and unapologetic talent. Not only did she land herself a man who is successful and accomplished himself, but she did very well to keep it on the low. There’s something so satisfying about seeing…Continue Reading

CUFFING SEASON GUIDE: 6 Signs He’s a Serial Heartbreaker

CUFFING SEASON GUIDE: 6 Signs He’s a Serial Heartbreaker

    He says the right thing, his text-back game is killer, he asks you out on proper dates (no Netflix and “chill”) and he’s exactly how you pictured your perfect mate would be. But in the back of your mind, in the hidden cracks of your psyche – your spidey senses are tingling. You know he’s delicious, but he smells too good to be true. Wave away some of that fairy dust and take a quick assessment before you start planning your tropical baecation. Watch out for these telltale signs he’s not ready to settle down. He’s Fresh Out Ask him when his last relationship was. If it was anytime in the last year, you might want to ease up just a tad. It’s common to feel “over” a relationship, especially when it ended amicably. But giving proper time to breathe out an old lover is important for self-care.…Continue Reading

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