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3 Reasons To Date A Man With Potential

In an effort to prove we are down for the men in our lives, aren’t a gold digger and money isn’t everything. Strangers and well meaning family are quick to suggest that “nobody is perfect” or tell a woman her standards may be too high.  God forbid she doesn’t want to struggle with a mate.  Combine that with the statistics that would have you believe the last good man on Earth just got married and you can see why a man with Potential could be attractive. Many Powerhouse women find themselves dating men who are a recipe for heartbreak but the signs are overlooked because he has the P word…potential. It sounds good on the surface but all potential is not created equal and I want you keep these 3 things in mind the next time you are thinking about giving your time and heart to a man because he…Continue Reading

I DON’T NEED A MAN – Issa Lie!

It seems like the new vogue thing to proclaim is “I don’t NEED a Man”.  Many Powerhouse women constantly express this statement like it’s a revelation, while simultaneously planning a cross-country relocation to the unknown city where there are better men. Countless women come to me saying Love Engineer, please help, where are the good men?   I have certainly helped, and they have weddings, engagements, lots of fun dates and love stories to show for it.  Yet, all of them were women who insisted initially that “they didn’t NEED a man”.  Then wondered out loud why, “I can’t find a man”, or had the audacity to suggest that there were no good men in (insert any city on the globe), or all the men are married, taken, gay or (insert latest negative masculine trait). They were absolutely convinced that those were the reasons that a good man could not be…Continue Reading

The Royal FairyTale

A Real Life Princess the Royal wedding was all sorts of magical. Ever since I was a little girl I have LOVED weddings and wedding cake. My invitation to the wedding of the year, was clearly lost in the mail and I have spent the week inquiring about it hence the delay in the blog. Even though I had to forego my royal cake tasting, honey let me tell you what made up for that – the Kingdom Choir. With all of that vocal sweetness wrapped up in every curl pattern known to the Diaspora, I knew it was going to be something special. Then they had the nerve to have all those layers of sizes and shapes, various hues of brown, from butter pecan to triple chocolate all drizzled with black excellence, with a cellist on top. #CelloBae was nothing short of AH-MAZING! Yet for all of the hype…Continue Reading

Why Good Girls Finish LAST

By now you have seen the 8 carats, and the footage of Offset proposing to the love of his life Cardi B, who by the way is having an EPIC year. But I digress when I heard her beau proposed on stage in front of a sold out audience I felt the collective gasp of “good girls” around the globe. Wondering how does an ex stripper, foul mouthed, high achieving woman like Cardi B end up engaged before me? You know good girls have spent their whole life doing everything “right”. Went to school, got the good grades, held on to her virginity (in some cases are still holding on to it), attended Sunday School, Bible study and is probably getting ready for choir rehearsal as this is being written. Pastors suggested she wait on God meanwhile provided little to no instruction on how she would know when “God showed…Continue Reading

You Are More Powerful Than You Know

You Are More Powerful Than You Know

  “Patriarchy isn’t my problem, Alex, women have always had the power!” My colleague insisted as we strolled into the leadership team meeting. I was kind of thinking out loud about how men need to get their acts together in the dating world (my dating world to be exact, as my colleague had been married for decades).  But his statement made me pause because though I was the youngest woman on the senior leadership team, though I was responsible for millions of dollars in assets and the profit structure of a powerful organization – when it came to dating I often felt powerless. How could I not? So much of the dating scene is about:   Waiting to be chosen… Then waiting on chooser to call and ask you out… While the chosen is trying not to seem too eager and risk scaring off the chooser… And as soon as…Continue Reading

This One Time, At Sundress Camp

This One Time, At Sundress Camp

Guest blogger Cali B. recaps When The Twin Cities Talk Love. This was the first time D&D added vendors to the agenda. What an upgrade, and such a cool way to pour back into the local economy for small business owners! I love how the host, Alex Merritt, warms up the crowd to let everyone know the event is about truth, respect, and individual experience. “There are no rights or wrongs,” she said, “just honest answers.” The first question to kick everything off was, “If love were a dessert, what you be and why?” One of my favorite responses was, “Chocolate because it’s bittersweet and complicated.” SAY THAT! Love has so many twists, turns,and options – yet its sweet and good for ya! We swiftly moved on to something as deep as politics to men of today. It stops traffic and causes some to restructure entire agendas. Good ole ‘Sundress…Continue Reading

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